Are You Enabling Your Spouse to Continue Their Drug Addiction?
You are married to someone with a drug addiction. What are you supposed to do? You vowed to love them ‘til death do you part. You vowed to love them through the good times and the bad. It may seem like you have no choice. The one thing you do have a choice in is whether you enable them. There are many married couples where one spouse enables the other to continue living in an addictive lifestyle. Is addiction genetic? If it is, you may see this happening with some of your spouse’s family members as well. Find out if you are enabling your spouse and if you are make changes to stop.
Are you afraid they will leave you?
There are many people who are afraid their spouse will leave them if they say something about the addiction. If they leave you because of this it is because they know they have a problem and they don’t want you doing anything about it. At the time, it means they care more about their addiction than you. Is that the type of relationship you want to be in? Is addiction genetic? If it is, your spouse may be used to people in the family putting their addiction first. If he or she leaves you, they may realize the error in the ways afterwards.
Are you afraid to kick them out?
If you are enabling your spouse because you are afraid to kick them out of the house, this is bad for the both of you. You don’t deserve to live in a household where you are not respected. You deserve much more than that. Also, by allowing your spouse to their drug addiction in the home, you are showing them you don’t care enough about them. You are showing them you don’t care if they get better and that isn’t helping a bit.
Are you embarrassed that everyone will find out about the drug addiction?
You might be enabling your spouse to continue their drug addiction because you are afraid others will find out about what is going on. The truth is that you need to be telling others you love and who love your spouse about his or her addiction. If these people know, more people can find ways to help your spouse.
These are some of the reasons you may be enabling your spouse. If you are doing this because of these reasons, be sure to get some help so you can stop. That is the only way they will have a chance of getting better.